A Thought But Out Loud

  Well, its super obvious that I should be talking about the grind.  Especially since I haven't posted since damn near January.  I had my Grand Opening for my Permanent Makeup Microblading studio in Atlanta and I have been Bartending in Midtown!! Yay to me getting shit done right!!💙 But honestly inflation has been an absolute Bitch!  I feel like I am constantly on the move, and I know everyone else is no stranger to this life of go go go!!   I sometimes just want to give back to those less fortunate than me.  Its interesting to me that finding the time to even do noble things has been hard lately.  Its definitely a time thing.  To be honest if there was one thing I could do it would be volunteer, but I am literally trying to understand how do the laws of the land insist we just run around paying bills all the time this is the most mindless thing I can think of to enforce on a society.  Working to ...

It took me a minute to write this one because I had been going through a lot of different things.  Growing constantly.  So sometimes I miss my moments to out pour my thoughts.  But out of nowhere this popped into my head, and I realized I needed to say this out loud.  Uncertainty means many things.  Doubt, skepticism, suspicion. The inability to make a decision, wavering between conclusions, lacking conviction or knowledge about an outcome or result.   Okay okay you get it. You just don't  know what to expect  or where you will end up.  It has been a big part of my life in a lot of things even currently with my businesses.  But to be honest relationships that I have never make me feel certain and I don't  know if that's  something with me or is it the consistent lack of communication from both ends causing the uncertain  feelings.   I know when I am certain about something I feel honestly happier and mo...

  Isn’t it crazy when you think of all the things that adulting throws at you???  The world we live in has changed so much over the last 10 years and I am so glad to see I am changing with it. One thing you don’t want to do is stop changing. Not changing and growing alone can cause an environment that will be toxic to your mind and soul, and it will spread a negative example.  I compiled a short list of things we can do to help find peace in a storm. One of the best ways that we can find peace is by meditating and starting our day with a mentality of being able to give and receive. Giving knowledge and receiving knowledge.  And trust me I get it when no one wants to hear everything will be okay or how do you even focus on peace when everything is so chaotic. I can’t lie that is hard. But learning to navigate hard is where you will actually find your peace. It’s such a weird perspective but if you think that when everything is easy that’s when you will find peace th...

I say this topic to say when we take time to try our best to get to know someone.  Isn’t  it the worst when they start doing things that let us know we don't know them. I had an old post a few months ago about Secret Single Behavior, this ties into that post and is an in-depth part 2. So, in the beginning you meet, and you love their smile. You love the intelligent conversations, and what about all the things that you have in common that just makes your connection get deeper. But of course what about the things that people never say out loud.  No one you meet says hey how you doing I am extremely insecure about x y z .  No guy who just wants to fuck is going to say hey how are you doing my name is Curtis I just want to have amazing sex with you.  Or better yet it’s great to meet you but I have an unusually weird porn addiction.  That’s right weird shit starts coming out later. Maybe they prefer to sleep alone, or...

 Yikes 😳 crazy topic but I can’t say it’s not necessary. Sometimes we want to be supportive to the people in our lives.  Maybe your married and they say its till death do you part and in sickness and in health, basically I'm there for you.  Also, with your friends there are a lot of one-sided relationships where support only is coming from the one friend all the time.  Is it the bond and love that keep people being supportive even when it becomes a crutch for the next person or a nightmare for the person that's being supportive.    It's funny how a person can actually see that being supportive for a friend or loved one is no longer serving you or them but yet they continue doing it.  Why do we do this?  Is it out of obligation.  The promise to stay committed and the thoughts of what would people say if I wasn't there for my best friend or partner.  Are we doing it for an audience and validation or are ...

 So you know what sparked this life post!!! People!!! Literally people! People we call friends. People we call family. People we call lovers.  I have yet to wrap my mind around territorial and jealous humans. People who say you can’t sit with us only because they want you all to themselves.  People who need to be the center of every conservation or better yet “why is the topic not ME. These people who see or hear you talking to someone else, and they lose their minds with jealousy. People who you don’t do anything to them, but they want to dismiss you and make you feel alienated.  People who just think that you don’t belong.  People who show up for the event to secretly wish it doesn’t do well. Ahhhh they say you will entertain angels unaware, but the reverse can be true my friends you literally entertain the demons too. Y’all be safe!!! I was just thinking 💭 out loud. 

 This is literally the lifeline to any and all relationships. You cannot have a growing successful relationship with anyone if it’s piss poor communication.  Sometimes you may not want to communicate with people in fear of them not reacting the way you want. Especially when you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, but truth be told this will only and always make things worse. Being hurt and knowing the truth is 10 times better than someone being in the dark about how you feel or just knowing what’s going on.  Lack of communication can ruin trust and it can ruin how you authentically deal with that person. Don’t assume that everything is okay when you flaked on somebody a few times. Let them know why you couldn’t make it be clear about what’s keeping you from making your planned meeting.  Often times the best couples can be ruined because of lack of and poor communication.  These terms are so different LACK of Communication is just neve...