When Communication is Lost

This is literally the lifeline to any and all relationships. You cannot have a growing successful relationship with anyone if it’s piss poor communication. Sometimes you may not want to communicate with people in fear of them not reacting the way you want. Especially when you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, but truth be told this will only and always make things worse. Being hurt and knowing the truth is 10 times better than someone being in the dark about how you feel or just knowing what’s going on.

Lack of communication can ruin trust and it can ruin how you authentically deal with that person. Don’t assume that everything is okay when you flaked on somebody a few times. Let them know why you couldn’t make it be clear about what’s keeping you from making your planned meeting.

Often times the best couples can be ruined because of lack of and poor communication.

These terms are so different LACK of Communication is just never saying what’s on your mind. Not being clear about the way you feel about little things and big things.

POOR Communication is yelling when you are talking, not listening 🙉, just waiting to make your argument heard. Also, being sarcastic or taking things lightly that they take very seriously.

These are huge deal breakers for me and to be honest you can still get along with poor communicators because you are going to always bend how you are to make sure there is peace which will eventually make you hate this person one day or maybe just blow up on them. And they won’t even know where it came from because you are hiding and not communicating how you feel about their lack of or poor communication.

This is a huge reminder friends if you are not good at communicating work on it now so you can have more successful and wholesome relationships with your lovers and friends. ✌🏽 Thinking Out Loud!!!

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