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Uncertainty

It took me a minute to write this one because I had been going through a lot of different things.  Growing constantly.  So sometimes I miss my moments to out pour my thoughts.  But out of nowhere this popped into my head, and I realized I needed to say this out loud.  Uncertainty means many things.  Doubt, skepticism, suspicion.



The inability to make a decision, wavering between conclusions, lacking conviction or knowledge about an outcome or result.  

Okay okay you get it. You just don't know what to expect or where you will end up.  It has been a big part of my life in a lot of things even currently with my businesses.  But to be honest relationships that I have never make me feel certain and I don't know if that's something with me or is it the consistent lack of communication from both ends causing the uncertain feelings.   I know when I am certain about something I feel honestly happier and more excited about life.  Not knowing what's going to happen always leaves me in an anxious and chaotic state of mind.  

I honestly wanted to be able to offer some solutions but to be real I don't have any.  I am here to tell you that's how it is no matter how organized and scheduled you think you are.  Life happens and things change.  Which leads to you guessed it uncertainty.  Why am I talking about something and not offering helpful solutions.  Because even if I tell you to plan ahead, be clear when communicating, write things down so you don't forget them, or research what your plan is so you understand the ups and downs and are prepared for them.  Guess what?  It still may be a feeling of uncertainty it's not always a feeling that you can escape.  

Even with relationships, you may know you love them but are you certain they love you.  I'm not trying to bring about the uncertainty I just want to be clear that we all can say uncertain moments, times and feelings are constantly happening.  Research shows the human brain prefers to know an outcome one way or another to take the edge off.  So, with that being said, do your best to not dwell on things you can't control.  It's a small piece of advice but it does help.  Peace and Blessings to a beautiful prosperous New Year and Stay tuned this year for more of my thoughts out loud.  

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