When you think you know someone

I say this topic to say when we take time to try our best to get to know someone. Isn’t it the worst when they start doing things that let us know we don't know them. I had an old post a few months ago about Secret Single Behavior, this ties into that post and is an in-depth part 2. So, in the beginning you meet, and you love their smile. You love the intelligent conversations, and what about all the things that you have in common that just makes your connection get deeper.

But of course what about the things that people never say out loud. No one you meet says hey how you doing I am extremely insecure about x y z . No guy who just wants to fuck is going to say hey how are you doing my name is Curtis I just want to have amazing sex with you. Or better yet it’s great to meet you but I have an unusually weird porn addiction.

That’s right weird shit starts coming out later. Maybe they prefer to sleep alone, or they don’t like PDA, but you do!!! Some of our secrets are not even weird they are just a collection of habits and trauma and the past trying to reconnect and understand something new. Ahhhh the relationship DE boggle isn’t it just annoying. It makes it terribly hard to get close to people.

All the problems that you have in life start with you, and your habits makeup a big part of who you are. Is it about changing or is it about adapting? Or is it a balance in between that we are seeking?

No one is perfect this has been a quote we all live by. Sometimes I think people use it to accept bad behavior and sometimes I think people use it to continue doing the fucked-up shit they do. And sometimes we are really just trying to be a better human each day, but we still fall short.

When you think you know someone but then you find out one thing you don't like does it simply depend on what the something is? How do you proceed when dealing with them? Ghosting is for the weak. Do you tell them it bothers you or tolerate this new thing about them that has really never been new to them, they just decided the perfect time to let the cat out of the bag. If you have something you keep from the ones, you really like how long before you decide to

reveal it? Or do you ever? On this sunny day in the A (Atlanta) these are some of my Thoughts Out Loud.

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