A Thought But Out Loud

  I recently read somewhere that a guy is Not invested in deepening the connection between you if he  only texts you and doesn't initiate calls or plans to meet up in person, it's a strong indication that he might not be as interested in you as someone he wants to pursue seriously; while texting can be a way to connect, a lack of effort to   move beyond texting could be a lack of genuine interest.  I have found that nothing ever really evolves from a text relationship for most people, however how interesting is it that a friend of mines met someone online and they are now about to get married . The real question is how can you really tell if a person is being truly sincere with only texting and online only communicating?  In general  Texting is a low-effort way to communicate, so if he only texts, he might be comfortable keeping you at a distance without actively pursuing you.  A guy or girl who wants to get to know you better will likely want to have ...

  Just when you thought I might not ruffle some feathers 🪶 yep this is a big one ☝🏽 and it’s one we need to talk about because it has happened so often in different faucets of everyone’s life. I was recently in a situation where a guy I was dating was a huge liar and the funny part is me and the other woman ended up becoming friends once we found out about each other.  The biggest thing for me with meeting her and becoming her friend made me realize how much we as woman accept the bare minimum and we also think that the guy who is a liar and a cheat is going to change for us at some point ,because we are so nice and loving.  I realized how many of us will say things like he was working and paying the bills I was so proud of him.  Why are we so proud of bare minimum behavior?? Most men I know are paying the bills because they just want to do that, they feel it is a part of their duties as a man.  However, if a guy comes along who is always looking for just sex ...

  In the recent movie Blink Twice Channing Tatum's character Slater King said 'forgetting is a gift".  This made me think a lot about all of the times men in my life and even to this day are s till playing this same card.  It is a crazy perspective to have yet has this not been the male perspective for so long.  Freaking Centuries! I'm talkin ANCIENT CIVILIZATIONS Long!!  My first example of this is when men cheat on their significant others how they are asked to forgive and forget!!! To be honest some women would rather forget and just sweep it under the rug and act like it doesn't happen to keep the peace, keep the money, or keep the status, or the one that really annoys me the most to appear and seem easy or cool.  Fuck that! This type of behavior is a big way for men to lose respect for women in general.  A lot of times we are so surprised at the way men treat us but sometimes when men have been given passes so much or allowed to disrespect women f...

  Don’t you just love a good steamy title that just makes you wonder wtf is this girl about to say !!! Ha !!  Well , I got some thoughts on this one ☝🏽  I have been married and I have been in long term relationships. I have been in the dumbest situationships, and so of course there’s those one night stands that we can’t seem to get around unless you are an extreme religious type.  But one thing is for sure that when the sex is just not it do you work on it ?? Well that’s a great topic for the next blog so comment for part two and I will definitely do that .  However , right now what about when the sex is so good but the person is so annoying. You know there are many scenarios to this some examples would be , Great sex horrible conversations… Great sex none of the same interests … Great sex he’s just not your type physically .. Great sex you are not financially compatible ( and we know men don’t care about this but women do ) …Great sex but he’s just not that in...

  And the world keeps turning...  I am h ere today to speak on conditioning the one thing that makes us who we are. Do you ever wonder why you do the things you do or think the things you think or say the things you say? Studies say we remain recognizably the same person throughout our lives, from early childhood to later in life. Also, I have heard many successful people say you are the same as the five people you hang around most.  So, with that being said how do you let go of the conditioning that is happening to you everyday. Self awareness may be one solution.  Also, I think the first step is knowing your control on any given situation.  Hopefully depending on your situation, you can control who you hang around. I know in some people's life they cannot control who they hang around.  For example, and this is just one example a child who is dependent on the parent for everything cannot control the neighborhood they live in or control what they are expose...

  So how in the world am I writing this lolol!!! I don't think I have ever had one. Sad but true.  In a world of dysfunction and coping mechanisms it's so hard to actually find it.  Or is it hard? I can't lie let's just be frank we all meet the guy or the girl that is the sweetest person and they totally feel perfect.  Of course, we know perfect does not exist no matter how hard we look.  I think the solution to that is realizing what your perfect is and is there any growth happening in the relationship.  Trust this if you are not growing all the time in some way and learning new things you will never feel perfect.  Healthy doesn't mean perfect and in no way am I saying perfect should be you expecting bare minimum bullshit from anyone.   Healthy relationships have to be laughing together, watching the movie together and cooking together but healthy relationships are also doing a lot of things apart.  I never quite realized this until I g...