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Healthy Relationships

 So how in the world am I writing this lolol!!! I don't think I have ever had one. Sad but true.  In a world of dysfunction and coping mechanisms it's so hard to actually find it.  Or is it hard? I can't lie let's just be frank we all meet the guy or the girl that is the sweetest person and they totally feel perfect.  Of course, we know perfect does not exist no matter how hard we look.  I think the solution to that is realizing what your perfect is and is there any growth happening in the relationship.  Trust this if you are not growing all the time in some way and learning new things you will never feel perfect.  Healthy doesn't mean perfect and in no way am I saying perfect should be you expecting bare minimum bullshit from anyone.  




Healthy relationships have to be laughing together, watching the movie together and cooking together but healthy relationships are also doing a lot of things apart.  I never quite realized this until I got much older.  I have noticed my friends with the healthiest relationships are not glued to each other every single day.  They go places with their friends and have alone time and do a lot of things apart sometimes.  We all love a good Rom Com and I am obsessed with Romance movies in general, but have you ever realized they will just most of the time show you how they end up together but never show you the work and the battles after establishing they are a couple.  

I am still on a journey of finding the right one and currently I feel like I have found them but you still never know when you have yet to hit those hurdles and challenges. The hard conversations that help build the relationship are when you know that it is healthy, growing and thriving. Healthy relationships are not a me attitude or where one person is only focused on their journey.  A healthy relationship is when you commit to the journey together and understand space and alone time as well as much needed dates nights and doing projects and things together are an absolute necessity. Communication is the biggest key.


On Instagram we typically see the good only and here and there you see someone opening up in a negative way or being childish about their relationship on a social media platform. I would never judge anyone for showing the good or the bad about their relationship on IG just make sure you are both aligned with concept of doing so. But here’s your moment to go do something fun with your partner or do something not so fun like planning your monthly budget. Just remember never talking about what is wrong grows into an inevitable snowball that you don’t want to deal with so it’s best to have those hard conversations to keep your relationships healthy, fun & thriving. Just remember the person you love so much is a person with real life emotions and thoughts, and you should always be willing to take that into account to keep the relationship healthy. 

Any thoughts please comment and as you know these are me writing my thoughts out loud.

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