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When the Sex just isn’t enough 👀

 Don’t you just love a good steamy title that just makes you wonder wtf is this girl about to say !!! Ha !!  Well , I got some thoughts on this one ☝🏽 




I have been married and I have been in long term relationships. I have been in the dumbest situationships, and so of course there’s those one night stands that we can’t seem to get around unless you are an extreme religious type.  But one thing is for sure that when the sex is just not it do you work on it ?? Well that’s a great topic for the next blog so comment for part two and I will definitely do that . 

However , right now what about when the sex is so good but the person is so annoying. You know there are many scenarios to this some examples would be , Great sex horrible conversations… Great sex none of the same interests … Great sex he’s just not your type physically .. Great sex you are not financially compatible ( and we know men don’t care about this but women do ) …Great sex but he’s just not that into you… great sex but he’s a pathological liar 🤥 

Yes A majority of sexual functions are controlled by the brain it regulates arousal, fantasies, lubrication, orgasm and erection . Essentially the brain initiates and directs most aspects of sexual behavior.

But let’s be honest sometimes you do just want some really great sex and some people are not afraid to live their lives based off that one particular thing. Some people say it’s literally something they have to do, at least the majority believe this is true. For some they say it’s a freeing liberating moment and for someone else it could mean something completely different.  I assume since a majority of sex is controlled by your brain it is scientific Chemical responses that your body craves.   


Tons of people use great sex for validation for themselves. Lately I have seen that It's really interesting how far people will go for validation, all in the pursuit of attention, and it is truly is unfortunate. Who you are goes beyond money and physical things that’s why even if the sex is good what about nurturing the part of you that’s inside. No matter what you think about having the BEST sex. Your inside is still talking to you there is a part of you that cares about you not just what touches you physically but who touches you mentally . Who cares about that deeper side of who you truly are?? Even when you act like you don’t care about that deeper meaning ,you will never fool yourself. Yet, I know people lie to themselves every day.  And yes it is that deep…

Facts, statistics ,stereotypes and everything that gives the illusion that it is something that you have to have. SEX . Everything that feels or taste good aint always good for you and what I truly know is that in reality you can't become a prisoner to something just because it feels good. 





I mean you could but trust me when I say feeling free is much better than not. But of course do you and be you just don’t lose you ! And these are a few of my messy thoughts out loud!


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