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New Age Dating : Texting , Tinder WTF

 




I recently read somewhere that a guy is Not invested in deepening the connection between you if he only texts you and doesn't initiate calls or plans to meet up in person, it's a strong indication that he might not be as interested in you as someone he wants to pursue seriously; while texting can be a way to connect, a lack of effort to move beyond texting could be a lack of genuine interest. 



I have found that nothing ever really evolves from a text relationship for most people, however how interesting is it that a friend of mines met someone online and they are now about to get married . The real question is how can you really tell if a person is being truly sincere with only texting and online only communicating? 

In general Texting is a low-effort way to communicate, so if he only texts, he might be comfortable keeping you at a distance without actively pursuing you. 

A guy or girl who wants to get to know you better will likely want to have deeper conversations through phone calls or in-person meetings not just texting or  sexual encounters for the meetings. 


Don’t get me wrong everyone nowadays has a busy schedule. Life gets busier every year . Sometimes, someone might be genuinely interested but only have time to text due to a hectic life.

But the biggest question is why ??? Why do people waste time with these mindless good morning texts if it is just the start to a game . The biggest game is they are not interested in you at all but they find it great to have some attention or the game of can I get you to like me  when they have no intention of really liking you or to be honest how many people are literally just living through trauma. With that being said They literally don’t even know how to act or treat people . True it is your responsibility to learn to be a better human but some people just have no intention and no real desire to change,  people truly accept mediocrity or what they have been taught and just play games . Why ??? we will never know IDK but the purpose of this blog was to let you know you NEVER know , just tread carefully with men or women because people today are literally winging the fuck out of everything…

I use to think the good morning game was for sex but it is to a certain extent sometimes it’s definitely beyond that because sometimes these men already are having sex with someone . So it maybe greed but it just seems like How much attention can they get in the day to stroke their disgusting ego.


I have had men send me sexual pics in hopes I would send one and this person has not taken me on one date. Recently a guy invites me to something really fun and I couldn’t make it , I am extremely busy so within the next three weeks of not being able to link he tells me through IG he has to take his girlfriend somewhere … Excuse me when were you ever going to reveal that information???  Also, an exchange of IG information is one thing but we were suppose to go out somewhere and you started asking me what type of things do I like to do . Why ?


I also find  It’s interesting how many of the people I work with met their person through online dating Tinder, Bumble you know all the dating sites that people use nowadays to find their special someone. 


At the end of the day everyone is busy I feel like the world is busier now then it’s ever been . People are changing so rapidly in the way ,they think and what they like , don’t like, do and don’t do ! 


Anywho I came in at the start of the New Year to say always be careful but try you’re best to balance the anxiety of the criminals out here trying to steal your heart and treat you like your nothing … because in spite of All of that BS there are people who are really true. Do you know how I know!!?? Because I am one I have seen a lot of BS and I have also seen the rarity of good that’s still on this earth.  Stay safe and stay tuned for more of my thoughts out loud ✌🏾


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