A Thought But Out Loud

 So you know what sparked this life post!!! People!!! Literally people! People we call friends. People we call family. People we call lovers.  I have yet to wrap my mind around territorial and jealous humans. People who say you can’t sit with us only because they want you all to themselves.  People who need to be the center of every conservation or better yet “why is the topic not ME. These people who see or hear you talking to someone else, and they lose their minds with jealousy. People who you don’t do anything to them, but they want to dismiss you and make you feel alienated.  People who just think that you don’t belong.  People who show up for the event to secretly wish it doesn’t do well. Ahhhh they say you will entertain angels unaware, but the reverse can be true my friends you literally entertain the demons too. Y’all be safe!!! I was just thinking 💭 out loud. 

 This is literally the lifeline to any and all relationships. You cannot have a growing successful relationship with anyone if it’s piss poor communication.  Sometimes you may not want to communicate with people in fear of them not reacting the way you want. Especially when you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, but truth be told this will only and always make things worse. Being hurt and knowing the truth is 10 times better than someone being in the dark about how you feel or just knowing what’s going on.  Lack of communication can ruin trust and it can ruin how you authentically deal with that person. Don’t assume that everything is okay when you flaked on somebody a few times. Let them know why you couldn’t make it be clear about what’s keeping you from making your planned meeting.  Often times the best couples can be ruined because of lack of and poor communication.  These terms are so different LACK of Communication is just neve...

 I say it all the time and it’s honestly so true we are so into this person and then all of a sudden, we just don’t feel like it fits anymore. It's interesting how the chemistry is going great everything seems very seamless with the connection but then it's the reality of things that begin to hold you back.   Maybe you want different things or maybe it’s just the idea of that person sounded goo d.  You know what I mean. We like the way the energy flows, we have conversations with depth but by the fourth date or when you start to think of the relationship evolving. Oh, wait now we have to unveil secret single behavior, or we are trying to fit you in to an  already routine weekly schedule. Uummmm I literally liked the idea of having company or the idea of going out to eat or the idea of kissing somebody’s ear or the idea of ANYTHING you enjoy doing with someone.  But now it has become an attachment that the other p...

Secret Single Behavior lol!!! We all have it and if it's a secret behavior do, we really even want the people we love and spend time with to know about it.  Well, I know that I have my own secret single behavior, are you kidding me we all have it.  So, the biggest question is do we change it, or do we just trust the people we love with our weirdo behavior!!  Okay ya'll I know it doesn't   necessarily mean we are weird because it's a secret.  Maybe you just think they may judge you for it.  What if it's just something you know they don't agree with.  The thought of changing who you are because of it totally means you should maybe rethink your choice on who you are with.  We should feel comfortable with our mates but how long does it take to let your guard down.  How long before you truly can trust them with your secret single behavior?  I actually came up with this logic from an episode of Sex ...

I am sure you have heard that Balance in your life is so important. Everybody preaches to have balance in your life! Social Life and Work balance. Healthy foods and Junk food balance. Exercise or no exercise balance. Eating at home and eating out balance. Drinking alcohol and not drinking alcohol balance.  I am here today to confirm the importance of balance in your life. But ultimately you can decide if you need balance or if it’s just a bunch of fluff to add some affirmative motivation to your day!   The positive outcomes for creating balance in your life are below!!! 1. Simplifying your life, defining your priorities and decluttering the stuff in your home and life that removes you from truly living life, can give you space, time and freedom.  2. Building balanced relationships. Having people around you that you like, and trust is one of the best indicators of living a long life. If you are sacrificing relationships like these because you're working too hard, you'...

  Okay!!!  So, I know this title has everyone like I know she is not trying to speak on people with flaws when we all have them. Just keep in mind again I am venting on this paper and looking for any commentary on this topic.   The biggest reason I'm talking about this is that as a kid in middle school one of my best friends at the time was an attention whore and as we got older it just got worse.  It got so bad that for the past ten years we became distant associates who see each other on social media but never see each other like the friends we use to be. We grew apart and it was mainly because of this trait. One of the biggest things with people who carry this personality trait is that they don't care about the way people act or treat them. Also, they don't care how the people they seek attention from treat other people. They are just happy with being able to say they have lots of friends and people they ...

 Sometimes I ask myself this question, well to be fair I ask myself this question a lot more than not.   In the midst of everything you realize everyone wants something different. I have heard psychologist say everyone wants to be loved but do they really! Or when they say just simple things like everyone wants to be surrounded by good people. Does everyone really want to be rich? I honestly don't believe everyone wants the same things as we think. It’s like the moment you think everyone wants to be happy but at the same time they are drinking themselves to death. Maybe they have their favorite fast food and they love it and even though it’s not nutritional, it’s simply processed food that’s what they want!  And to be honest most people know what alcohol does to them but if they want it they want it . PERIODT  I've learned in life what people want is what they want sometimes they want it because someone else had it. Sometimes they want i...