The Idea of Someone

I say it all the time and it’s honestly so true we are so into this person and then all of a sudden, we just don’t feel like it fits anymore. It's interesting how the chemistry is going great everything seems very seamless with the connection but then it's the reality of things that begin to hold you back.

Maybe you want different things or maybe it’s just the idea of that person sounded good. You know what I mean. We like the way the energy flows, we have conversations with depth but by the fourth date or when you start to think of the relationship evolving. Oh, wait now we have to unveil secret single behavior, or we are trying to fit you in to an already routine weekly schedule. Uummmm I literally liked the idea of having company or the idea of going out to eat or the idea of kissing somebody’s ear or the idea of ANYTHING you enjoy doing with someone.

But now it has become an attachment that the other person wants clarity on the question we dread, "what are we doing." I feel like we have all been there. The literal IDEA of someone but yet we don’t really want the true fullness of what it is evolving too. Better yet you won’t be free anymore I mean everything else is cool but my freedom, we like that more than the person. I guess. I really don’t know what happens between that moment of you're the best person to be around to why are you texting me lol! I guess it’s a thin line and I guess it’s just another one of my thoughts 💭 OUT LOUD!!!!!

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