Secret Single Behavior

Secret Single Behavior lol!!! We all have it and if it's a secret behavior do, we really even want the people we love and spend time with to know about it. Well, I know that I have my own secret single behavior, are you kidding me we all have it. So, the biggest question is do we change it, or do we just trust the people we love with our weirdo behavior!! Okay ya'll I know it doesn't necessarily mean we are weird because it's a secret.

Maybe you just think they may judge you for it. What if it's just something you know they don't agree with. The thought of changing who you are because of it totally means you should maybe rethink your choice on who you are with. We should feel comfortable with our mates but how long does it take to let your guard down. How long before you truly can trust them with your secret single behavior? I actually came up with this logic from an episode of Sex in the City. I resonated with it so much because I know it's so true and we definitely all have it.

Do you think you should change and conform because it's a secret or just be open and trust that they won't judge you for it. I don't smoke cigarettes anymore I have been clean for three years, but I remember when I would date guys I would smoke before or after hanging out with them. Secret Single Behavior right, because around my homegirls I would have my drinks and smoke my American Spirits with no thought about how they would judge me. Another example. you have a certain routine before bed that takes forever to complete and when your boo comes over you don't do the routine because you don't want them to think you take forever. The routine isn't really that bad and it doesn't feel like it should be a secret. On the other hand, if you take two hours to get ready for bed, but your person takes ten minutes eventually I'm sure somebody will have something to say. Someone thinks the other person is neglectful and the other person thinks they are being excessive.

I say all of these examples to say don't think you know everything about someone. However, I honestly don't think you should be mad or hurt because you don't know everything about someone. When people have been single for years you have to believe that eventually you will get to see them completely naked but it's definitely a journey that comes with patience and being able to not think you always have to know everything about someone to actually love them. Because trust me you really don't. And once again it was a thought that I decided needed to be out loud.

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