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Attention Whores ! Should we embrace this personality trait or flaw??

 Okay!!!  So, I know this title has everyone like I know she is not trying to speak on people with flaws when we all have them. Just keep in mind again I am venting on this paper and looking for any commentary on this topic.  

The biggest reason I'm talking about this is that as a kid in middle school one of my best friends at the time was an attention whore and as we got older it just got worse.  It got so bad that for the past ten years we became distant associates who see each other on social media but never see each other like the friends we use to be. We grew apart and it was mainly because of this trait.








One of the biggest things with people who carry this personality trait is that they don't care about the way people act or treat them. Also, they don't care how the people they seek attention from treat other people. They are just happy with being able to say they have lots of friends and people they know. Just whatever it takes to have as many people as possible talking to them and giving them conversation. Just so they can say I know them, and they are my friend. 

So, I say all of this to say in the midst of needing to have so many friends is it really worth it to no longer have your best friend.  I'm not a psychologist I'm just an observant person. To be honest it's kind of sad to need so much attention from, everyone that you miss out on the best people because you need so many people. 


It's almost like with a cheater who's trying to be with so many partners at one time, and even when you claim poly is there honestly just this need for so much stimulation and attention. It doesn't make you necessarily horrible and it doesn't mean you're not a nice person. But what it does mean is that you definitely can be flaky because you take in and allow so many different energies. 

Has anyone ever told you that you can't be everyone's friend 😐Its a hard truth and maybe it's not yours. Maybe you believe you can be everyone's friend no matter what but trust me the person trying to be so popular it's never what you think it is! Not too long ago a relationship coach told me maybe they want this attention because they never had ANY attention. 

It kind of changed my perspective and made me have sympathy for them. Hence the title should we embrace this personality trait. So yeah, not being the same friend to someone for 10 years over them needing attention from a lot of different people maybe I was hasty to move on from that friendship. But to be honest it's just a level of trust I was not able to give. To the person who needs attention You need all of that energy, and you thrive from it. I don't need all of that energy and I don't thrive from it. Differences. Growth. Acceptance. So, I can embrace our differences. I can grow by understanding them. I can accept that we have different levels of what friendships and relationships means to us. 



So, the person who needs a lot of attention I hope and pray that you can be okay one day with being patient enough to understand everyone doesn't need to be your friend. Growing strong authentic connections with hundreds, is that possible?? Growing strong authentic connections with a few is absolutely possible. But I don't know I just live here and I was just thinking out loud lol😉

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