A Thought But Out Loud

Secret Single Behavior lol!!! We all have it and if it's a secret behavior do, we really even want the people we love and spend time with to know about it.  Well, I know that I have my own secret single behavior, are you kidding me we all have it.  So, the biggest question is do we change it, or do we just trust the people we love with our weirdo behavior!!  Okay ya'll I know it doesn't   necessarily mean we are weird because it's a secret.  Maybe you just think they may judge you for it.  What if it's just something you know they don't agree with.  The thought of changing who you are because of it totally means you should maybe rethink your choice on who you are with.  We should feel comfortable with our mates but how long does it take to let your guard down.  How long before you truly can trust them with your secret single behavior?  I actually came up with this logic from an episode of Sex ...

I am sure you have heard that Balance in your life is so important. Everybody preaches to have balance in your life! Social Life and Work balance. Healthy foods and Junk food balance. Exercise or no exercise balance. Eating at home and eating out balance. Drinking alcohol and not drinking alcohol balance.  I am here today to confirm the importance of balance in your life. But ultimately you can decide if you need balance or if it’s just a bunch of fluff to add some affirmative motivation to your day!   The positive outcomes for creating balance in your life are below!!! 1. Simplifying your life, defining your priorities and decluttering the stuff in your home and life that removes you from truly living life, can give you space, time and freedom.  2. Building balanced relationships. Having people around you that you like, and trust is one of the best indicators of living a long life. If you are sacrificing relationships like these because you're working too hard, you'...

  Okay!!!  So, I know this title has everyone like I know she is not trying to speak on people with flaws when we all have them. Just keep in mind again I am venting on this paper and looking for any commentary on this topic.   The biggest reason I'm talking about this is that as a kid in middle school one of my best friends at the time was an attention whore and as we got older it just got worse.  It got so bad that for the past ten years we became distant associates who see each other on social media but never see each other like the friends we use to be. We grew apart and it was mainly because of this trait. One of the biggest things with people who carry this personality trait is that they don't care about the way people act or treat them. Also, they don't care how the people they seek attention from treat other people. They are just happy with being able to say they have lots of friends and people they ...

 Sometimes I ask myself this question, well to be fair I ask myself this question a lot more than not.   In the midst of everything you realize everyone wants something different. I have heard psychologist say everyone wants to be loved but do they really! Or when they say just simple things like everyone wants to be surrounded by good people. Does everyone really want to be rich? I honestly don't believe everyone wants the same things as we think. It’s like the moment you think everyone wants to be happy but at the same time they are drinking themselves to death. Maybe they have their favorite fast food and they love it and even though it’s not nutritional, it’s simply processed food that’s what they want!  And to be honest most people know what alcohol does to them but if they want it they want it . PERIODT  I've learned in life what people want is what they want sometimes they want it because someone else had it. Sometimes they want i...

A long time ago I realized that standing up for myself was really self care.  I am saying I realized it but I really only started to 100% stand up for myself until recently. I know when we are kids people pick on us and we want to stand up for ourselves . But in our adulting life there are these moments where the bully is no longer the kids it’s just life.  It could literally be your manager at work, your boyfriend/girlfriend , or I got one even better the people tha we actually say they are our friends can bully us. Subtle mistreatment , making you feel guilty about something that has nothing to do with you so instead of you doing the best for you we do the the best for them because THEY will feel happier.  Being selfless is cool and I’m not preaching to be selfish but I’m definitely saying have some discernment . Don’t live an unhappy life because you want to be accepted by someone.  Trust me it’s still the same as you standing up for yourself! People will watch yo...

 It’s so interesting how everything has rules even when we try to say we are not adhering to the ones setup. We typically are still playing by some kind of a rule that was set up through conditioning or environment. Like I can’t lie I have been married and I literally hated every minute of it. But because the status quo tells us it’s so great and it’s a romantic adventure shared between two people who love each other humans are literally sold on this idea of being with this someone forever. The rules of bills and living and eating and maintaining a certain level of respect from others. The rules of being kind and just being social whew 😅 my hair has rules lol!!! IG has rules , the way I wear my clothes has rules!! So no wonder in the space of someone you care for and in the space of just being you , you just want to be free.