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Standing Up for Yourself


A long time ago I realized that standing up for myself was really self care. 



I am saying I realized it but I really only started to 100% stand up for myself until recently. I know when we are kids people pick on us and we want to stand up for ourselves . But in our adulting life there are these moments where the bully is no longer the kids it’s just life. 

It could literally be your manager at work, your boyfriend/girlfriend , or I got one even better the people tha we actually say they are our friends can bully us. Subtle mistreatment , making you feel guilty about something that has nothing to do with you so instead of you doing the best for you we do the the best for them because THEY will feel happier. 


Being selfless is cool and I’m not preaching to be selfish but I’m definitely saying have some discernment . Don’t live an unhappy life because you want to be accepted by someone.  Trust me it’s still the same as you standing up for yourself! People will watch you cry yourself to sleep , they will ignore you like you don’t even exist after you have literally went out on a limb to please them. 

It’s so hard nowadays to tell whose true . Just know you have to be concerned about


you because no one else will!!! Life is full of alot of things but we have to look 👀 at it with clear thinking not always with our emotions . Your emotions won’t fight for you for some reason they always fight for everyone else . 

Happy Adulting ,

Arabia’s Thoughts 💭 ✌🏽 

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