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Why is Bad Stuff Happening To Me???


Why is bad stuff happening to Meeee 😩The big ugly question right??? And sometimes we ask this question and have literally not considered if it’s really as bad as we think . I’m not at all trying to downplay how upset you are , nor am I saying they are not bad things.  We truly have to look at everything from the beginning to end and then we can say how bad it really is. When you started your journey half the time things may be way worst when you start and then the middle of it all is not as bad but I think because we get laser focused on outcome that’s all we see .


But we can’t help but ask why? 


To be honest sometimes it’s for growth , sometimes for a lesson learned which kind of relates to growth when you are being taught lessons . Challenging times and being uncomfortable is literally the fucking worst but sometimes when  you get to the end and see how it all ties in to make you who you become I promise you it will be worth it . Even if it isn’t exactly the way you envisioned it because sometimes things have a way of showing us why sometimes what we wanted isn’t really what we needed. And on the other hand the patience and discipline to keep pressing when there is literally no movement or progress but you still wake up and try trust me it will happen. Just remember friends .


This too shall pass!!!! 


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