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Romance is it Dead or Alive ?

 Well, well, well here we go!!!! I can literally hear everyone screaming its DEAD 😵 Too many women I know struggle and even men are struggling with the idea of romance. Maybe the problem is that we see it as just an idea and not something we truly want to implement into our relationships. Love is a VERB. I can’t remember the last time I was getting into a car and the man held the door open for me but to be completely honest I feel like that may have happened three weeks ago when I was hopping into my Lyft with this guy who likes to play my boyfriend on occasion, and it felt awkward. I am pretty sure it felt awkward because no one ever does it.





When I think of romance, I think about the movies I have watched over and over again that show guys that are hopelessly in love and go to hell and back to make sure the girl realizes how much he wants to be with her. 

Flash into reality really quick the IG DM ugh or tinder not my particular thing but a lot of people are Tinder, Bumble and Hinge daters. Texting 💬 and building a relationship online is so unclear about what type of person you are truly getting. Hence the term catfish, or can we just say liars because that’s truly the hardest part about internet dating and it completely takes the romance out of it. I will say FaceTime kind of helps a little bit with the catfish part. 


When it comes to romance it’s not just about sending her flowers it’s that verb love again holding hands, watching movies together, cooking together, taking walks together, sharing ice cream, massaging there back after a long day and I could go on, but I don’t want to bore you. 

On the other hand, there are women in today’s time who say a diamond is romantic or taking me on extravagant trips is romantic. That’s when perception comes in. Things are not romance no matter how much people want to believe it. Better yet the way they want to see it or choose to see it. Romance is not dead unless you want it to be dead. So is it dead or alive it’s very much alive if you want it to be alive. Don’t tell me about what everybody else is doing or what you see everyone else doing. It doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing what matters is what you are doing. One of my favorite speakers Trent Shelton always says it all starts with you when you are changing your life well, I’m here to piggyback that concept because the romance all starts with you. 

How are you showing up? How consistent are you? How open are you? How clear are you? Romance starts and begins with having some form of emotional intelligence. This is coming from a divorced and freshly broken-hearted girl who has been in the Atlanta dating pool for a long time so I should be jaded but I do believe romance still exists I believe it is very alive. But I believe it’s alive if you decide it’s going to live! Signing off from Atlanta giving you some of my Thoughts out Loud ✌🏽

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