A Thought But Out Loud

 Sometimes I ask myself this question, well to be fair I ask myself this question a lot more than not.   In the midst of everything you realize everyone wants something different. I have heard psychologist say everyone wants to be loved but do they really! Or when they say just simple things like everyone wants to be surrounded by good people. Does everyone really want to be rich? I honestly don't believe everyone wants the same things as we think. It’s like the moment you think everyone wants to be happy but at the same time they are drinking themselves to death. Maybe they have their favorite fast food and they love it and even though it’s not nutritional, it’s simply processed food that’s what they want!  And to be honest most people know what alcohol does to them but if they want it they want it . PERIODT  I've learned in life what people want is what they want sometimes they want it because someone else had it. Sometimes they want it because they couldn't have it. Some

A long time ago I realized that standing up for myself was really self care.  I am saying I realized it but I really only started to 100% stand up for myself until recently. I know when we are kids people pick on us and we want to stand up for ourselves . But in our adulting life there are these moments where the bully is no longer the kids it’s just life.  It could literally be your manager at work, your boyfriend/girlfriend , or I got one even better the people tha we actually say they are our friends can bully us. Subtle mistreatment , making you feel guilty about something that has nothing to do with you so instead of you doing the best for you we do the the best for them because THEY will feel happier.  Being selfless is cool and I’m not preaching to be selfish but I’m definitely saying have some discernment . Don’t live an unhappy life because you want to be accepted by someone.  Trust me it’s still the same as you standing up for yourself! People will watch you cry yourself to s

 It’s so interesting how everything has rules even when we try to say we are not adhering to the ones setup. We typically are still playing by some kind of a rule that was set up through conditioning or environment. Like I can’t lie I have been married and I literally hated every minute of it. But because the status quo tells us it’s so great and it’s a romantic adventure shared between two people who love each other humans are literally sold on this idea of being with this someone forever. The rules of bills and living and eating and maintaining a certain level of respect from others. The rules of being kind and just being social whew 😅 my hair has rules lol!!! IG has rules , the way I wear my clothes has rules!! So no wonder in the space of someone you care for and in the space of just being you , you just want to be free.